has my opinion changed?

Today, I would probably not be so insistent on him giving up what he wants so much. Sure, it’s not fair to pressure his lady like that. It’s wrong actually. However, he would suffer if he stayed with her too. They weren’t married yet. They had not promised to go through thick and thin. They had time to go separate ways if need be. (never settle for less… move on and find your best match… that’s what I would say… never manipulate or corner someone into being who they’re not… that emotional hijacking is never ever good)

They did eventually part. I heard the breakup was horrible and super painful. They took years before they got serious with anyone. I last heard that they’re doing OK in their respective relationship, but they’re not the same. The hurt was too intense. They were supposed to be together. Or so the grapevine informs me.

It gets far more complicated once vows come into play… especially when you discover that your partner is not going to give you what you thought you were going to get.

So… what if they had gotten married? What if they made it work for years… then… he starts having a lot of stress at work… and the single fastest way to calm the beast and return the gentleman is… yup… her dressing up… what then?

Harsh Reality

Ultimately, that man will have to learn to cope differently. That’s just the bottom line. He can’t change her. He shouldn’t change her. Especially if she’s not agreeing/consenting for him to lead her through any changes. He’s got to change.

In all honesty… that change I’m talking about is not easy. It’s very hard. To change your very essence sucks! It is monumental work. It is intense. It is a grind. It is a struggle. The temptation to revert back to your natural state is ever so high. And worse… any and every time you see another dude getting from his lady exactly what you’re wishing for… the struggle gets all the more real.

However, that is the way of sacrifice. That’s what you do as a gentleman to protect your lady. You make changes. You adjust. You don’t do this at the expense of your soul however. But you do change and adjust.

What one ultimately hopes for… a partner who is willing and able to accommodate your kinks… after all… they’re part of who you are. Just don’t leave all your resources in one basket… meaning… don’t make your partner your sole coping mechanism and only source of gratification. That is wickedly unfair (not saying to have another partner on the side… especially if it’s not agreed upon first by both in the relationship… open relationships is a whole different story)

As I conclude my rambling… I do feel bad for that guy. But that is not my primary concern really. Mine is that I’m so freakin’ busy… I don’t know if I should take a break from writing to get things done and then return. I’m in the midst of a crazy crazy month. (note: the current storyline will continue uninterrupted… there just might be a gap before the next story)

As I continue to dive into the shallow end of the depth of romance… there may be a rambling post or two in the future. For now… whatever your kink… go easy on your partner as far as demands are concerns… and amplify the cherishing of them instead.