Division of labor
The difference between a submissive and a dominant is more about the specialization of labor. Ok, not labor as in work. As in roles. Each bring very valuable contributions to the relationship that allows it to thrive. Each takes care of key needs for the other. That combination is built on trust and on service to the other. It is romanticized of course. But the real power is the synergy that comes from having needs met very uniquely.
There are things a sub will do that a dom totally needs. There are things a dom will do that a sub totally needs. Together, they become a very powerful force. Much greater than the sum of both parts.
Trust is the glue that binds them. Communication is the lubrication that keeps that bond fluid enough to allow growth of both parties. Love is the bridge that allows the bond to stay warm and toasty for long periods of time. Just keep in mind that that bridge would not really work without the trust acting as both the glue and the pillars that uphold the bridge.
Each member brings their own specialized skills to the pack. Each knows that they influence the pack. Each work hard to make the pack succeed. The strength of the pack rests on the strength of the participants in the pack.
Each has to master their work, their craft, their skills, their generosity, and their contribution to the pack. Service leadership would not work if the beneficiary did not also practice service leadership. Think about it. No matter how generous the man may be, if the woman is not generous too, he will eventually grow weary and tap out. And vice versa. By serving the pack, both parties benefit.
(over the next several posts, these points will get teased out all the more)
I have the pleasure of letting Son Plaisir share a few thoughts about the She-Wolf. I could not have put it together so nicely and so succinctly. I am honored to have the luxury of sharing her thoughts on the matter. I am working with her to have more collaborative posts as well as contributions. Without further introduction, here is Son Plaisir
The She-Wolf
A She-Wolf is strong, independent, trusting, confident, loving, caring, honest, and proud. She submits to only one wolf and that is her mate. She has an unspoken respect for all the male wolves in her pack, as they are her mate’s brethren.
While that may seem contradictory to what society deems “submissive”, well society has been wrong before.
Imagine a shy, timid, fearful She-Wolf dealing with an alpha mate. Neither would ever have their needs fulfilled. Her submission would not be granted to him in loving, trusting respect. It would be out of fear. They would eventually resent each other. He, because she shouldn’t fear him and she, because she does. Make sense? I hope so.
You all reading this are my pack mates. I know only one of you and that is the ALPHA leader of this pack.
To my She-Wolf sisters. Do not envy each other and form little inside clicks. We need to support and mentor each other. In the pack mentality if the she-wolves have stress and strife amongst each other… the male wolves will have to intervene and lose focus on their own responsibilities to the pack. Being a She-Wolf is not a competition, you have already won by embracing it. There is no right and wrong way, what works for you and your mate might not be what rocks the next couple’s boat… smiles… Of course we’ll “compare notes” but not to tear each other down but to encourage each other.
With Love,
Son Plaisir
Thank you Son Plaisir
I greatly appreciate your insights and contributions.
Until we chat again, keep your pack solid.
For those, in the future, who will want to binge on older Wolf Wednesday posts, they will be aggregated in groups on the portfolio section of the blog below. Just click on the image or title to access the table of contents of that group. Thank you for checking out the posts in real time and in binged review.
Wolf Pack Sessions
Starting A Wolf Pack
A new project is gracing the blog. The Wolf Pack
We will be doing a few thoughts on Wednesdays and grow it into a thing.
Here are the humble beginnings of the Wolf Pack. Stay tuned for a lot more over the course of time. (click the image or title to read more)
Wolf Pack Formation
The call was answerd in the wild in 2017.
The Wolf Pack gathered to solve the question set forth by the counsel.
What makes a man… a man… and how is one a Dom.
The beginnings of Wolf Wednesday takes shape.
Wolf Pack Continuation
2018 was the second year of the Wolf Pack appearance on Wolf Wednesdays
The work was hard and the sessions interrupted by blizzards
Yet, the tribe continued to work. The definition of roles had to be hammered out.
A Dom and sub pairing has to be of equal worth and value
Wolves… let’s continue the work that has begun
Wolf Pack Expansion
The Wolf Wednesday Work continues in 2019 with greater ambition and motivation.
Calling all alphas to unite and bring strength to the counsel.
There are men and women who need to know the difference between a real and fake Dom.
Wolves… engage beast mode!
Shallows of the Deep 
Very much appreciate the analogies in this blog post. Especially, like the encouragement of She-Wolves supporting one another.
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Thank you kindly
We call can win together:) life is. Ore fun when we all win together.
The zero sum game is draining and unsustainable.
Glad you like the post. Very encouraging. Looking forward to the next in the series
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