Wolf Wednesday Teaching Moment

When a man steps up to his role and does it to the best of his ability with no expectation in return, his wildest expectations get met. Meaning. When you’re able to serve your lady wholeheartedly, she will do her due diligence to uncover what it is that makes you happy and will deliver it to you.

Ever wonder why the majority of BDSM appears to show the guy in an advantaged position? When the lady feels safe and can trust you to deliver on your word and respect her limits, she is more than willing to do what will make you happy. This does not discount the fact that some women do want the actual appearance of disadvantage.

Not enough men are stepping out and showing others how to be men. Think about it. Most guys become who they are because they had some father figure show them the path. It could be their actual father or another man. Men tend to learn from other men.

More men need to be vocal about what it takes to be a real man. There has to be a countering force to all the loud vocal boys in men’s bodies who are spreading false messages about masculinity.

Men have to be hard? Nonsense.

Men don’t cry? Yeah… OK!

Men have to dominate? No. They need to know the difference between dominate and dominant… because that’s two completely different things (for another Wolf Wednesday post most likely)

Men aren’t emotional? Have you ever been to a SuperBowl game or barber shop? Men sure are emotional!

Men only express anger, jealousy, neutral, or triumphant emotions? Only those who never learned the other emotions. Any man who swears they can’t learn the other emotions… knows nothing about being a man. Run away!

The list of stupid stereotypes can go on and on. Bottom line, it’s time we shatter the lies and myths about what it is to be a man. It’s time to put humanity back into manhood. Men cherish the opportunity to serve those who are in their care. Men provide in more ways than just financial or at the far end of a paddle/whip/scream/etc.

When a man masters the art of being a man, which is an ever continuing process by the way, then he is trusted to be dominant. (in another post… we can dive into the nature of being dominant versus being trusted to be dominant). A Dominant is one who takes great pride in meeting the needs of his submissive. Only when it’s a matter of principle to take care of his queen will that queen agree to submit to her king and crown him as such.

Want your wife to submit to you? Be worthy of her submission so you never have to ask for it, as it will be given to you. It is never too late to learn how to serve your lady. The same way you can learn for a new career, you can learn to serve your lady correctly.

Drop the excuses. This is when it’s time to man up. Figure out what it takes. Listen closely to her. Watch her. Respect her. Attend to her. Give her reason to trust you. Be a man of your word. Do as you say. Mean what you say. Build the case over time that you are her king by doing what a kind should do.

By the way, a king takes care of his court and his people. That’s the only way he can stay their king and not have them raise up a coup against him.

Modern Day Translation. If you’re a fake Dom… your sub will raise a coup d’etat and will leave you! (if you’ve not broken and hurt her first) <Which, if you have… extra shame on you>.

Before you go calling yourself a Dom, be sure you’re the gentleman worthy of the title. A real Dom needs not announce that he is one. His reputation precedes him. His reputation follows him. His reputation speaks for him.

To Conclude

This post was inspired by several conversations along the journey of life. On the next and final page, there is a message that was shared by someone. It’s a simple very clear message to all males. It is worth noting, not all males are gentlemen. Not all males are men.

The following passage is shared with indirect permission. Lifted from the social media account of one friend of the blog, all credit goes to the originator of that content.