Two Powerful Phrases

Yes. Declaration.

To the woman, if this pen may be allowed to speak so boldly, the declaration is that the speaker will place his heart on the line to ensure the well being of the listener’s heart. One can’t mistreat what one loves? One won’t abuse what one loves?

Just ask what a male will do for his favorite football team or his treasured car. One will quickly observe the degree of effort such a male makes to ensure the well being of said loved item. Women expect that same degree of effort, loyalty, enthusiasm, commitment, praise, and treatment as a starting baseline. Being they’re human, they expect their treatment to surpass that of inanimate objects.

A woman hearing the phrase “I love you” takes it to hear that the phrase was not thrown around lightly and without merit. Of course, the modern savvy female will verify the words with actions before allowing the impact of said words to move her.

Once in a stable and solid relationship, the words take on significance far greater than their face value. It is a renewal of connection, a renewal of the declaration. To tell your lover that you love them is to offer one’s heart all over again. That is why it is important a woman hear she’s loved often.

One poet once said that (paraphrased of course) “the word ‘I love you’ is like water to a parched explorer who just crossed the desert by day to see their lover once again”. This could explain why many males have committed very fatal errors that have ruined otherwise wonderful relationships.

She already knows I lover her. I told her so last month! the very thoughts of ignorance that have soured many a hearts that were willing to submit… but for lack of appreciation, have moved on to greener pastures.

To most males, the repetition of the phrase takes away from the value of such a phrase. Males do not find the same watering value of the phrase. This is not to say that males do not need to hear the word. But, unlike most human explores who dehydrate quickly in the blazing desert sun, males seem to have the ability to carry that hydration much further. You can tell a guy you love him on Sunday and chances are good he’s going to be just fine not hearing it until the following Sunday. Provided nothing happened during the week to accelerate the rate of dehydration.

A woman who hears from her man that she’s loved on a daily basis has the miraculous ability to translate that phrase into wonders that amaze. She will do the most sacrificial thing to ensure her man is doing great. All because she hears she’s loved.

Obviously, it takes a whole lot more than just words. That’s why most women need to see the man’s eyes when hearing the words. The phrase is but a bridge that connects the soul with the heart. The eyes however is the window that translates the words into meaningful spiritual connection. It translates the words into power. A man who says the words but his eyes betrays his lips… well… he might have well said “I’m breaking up with you for a better model”.

Bottom line, fellas, if you do in fact love your lady… don’t be stingy with the words. Say it over and over. Think of it this way, each rising of the sun has reset the entire slate clean. She now needs to hear it again for today. There is no banking of words. There is no reserve of the words. Each day needs it’s daily dose for effective living.

Ladies, our tanks are built differently. We are told we’re loved and we’re good until circumstance dictate otherwise. Meaning, you don’t have to worry about daily dosage. However, don’t try to figure out the weekly package… it varies greatly from guy to guy. So, just do what is natural to you and expect the periodic rolling of the eyes if the guy is good to go. What us hearing this often does is make it easier for us to say it back to you. Which, in our world, counts as having initiated it unprompted (still hotly debated and contested through the ages past right through the ages to come)

Thank You

Society feels it’s polite to say “thank you” when something is done for you. Sadly, in relationships, many people feel that they get a pass on saying “thank you”. As if it’s a given. Just because one is comfortably close does not take away from the normal policy of civilized living.

When someone does something for you, say “thank you”. And that’s that. Even if the person isn’t sure what to do with it. Say it anyway.

note: there was no gender differentiation here. Everyone has to say “Thank you”. It’s polite. It’s human.

So then, the question is, why is that phrase so powerful for men?