For a gentleman, the acknowledgment of provisions is huge. It’s a respect thing. It’s showing you’re aware that something was done in your favor… that didn’t have to be done.

Men feel the need to provide. They also live off the concept of respect. The fact he took the time to invest in you to show you how much he cares, the least respectful thing to do is to acknowledge what was done.

When a man feels respected and acknowledged, his pride and ego gets a good boost that prompts him to want to do more of that providing.

Men show their love by doing things. That’s why a lot of poetic references to crossing raging seas or climbing impossible mountains or carrying the earth to the moon and back etc are said. The man wants to know that his contribution means something.

To deny a man the “Thanks” he feels he’s earned is like refusing to tell your girlfriend you love her because you just don’t want to have her feel good about being loved. To a guy, not being acknowledged is deprivation of much needed water in the middle of a scorching desert.

Many a man have turned cold towards their wives/girlfriends because they feel taken advantage of. Simply because the woman won’t say “thank you”. Her reasons can be one of many, but the end result is the same. The man feel starved of recognition and respect. Might as well reject him. Another cardinal sin by the way.

For the record, being the writer is of the male half of the population, not saying “Thank you” often elicits feelings of being used. The ego takes a hit. Confidence rocked. With the passage of time, the micro-rejections add up. The fractures will eventual cause bleeding of the heart. When men’s heart bleeds, it warrants quick aggressive solutions to control the bleeding.

That’s usually where the man turns to someone he can trust to help heal his heart. That someone usually is not the person who caused the bleeding in the first place. Translation… he turns to another woman for healing. Men are capable of healing themselves. Very much like women can. It’s just warmer feeling when in the hands of a loving lady. Now you’ve got a behind the scenes look at some of the factors behind infidelity (which this blog does not support, does not endorse, does not agree with… if you need to connect with another emotionally, end it first with the one who thinks you love then.. Then.. Move one to your next relationship).

To conclude this “for the record” segment. If you want a man to move mountains and go out of his way to say “I love you”.. Show a bit of gratitude for what he does for you. That touches his heart deeply. Empowers his loyalty centers. Gives him reason to try even harder for you.

What does this all mean?

At the end of the day, everyone wants to feel loved. The way a male and a female go about feeling love may be different, but the result is the same.

She wants to emotionally feel safe, secure, desired, appreciated, wanted, needed, treasured.

He wants to feel respected, trusted, wanted, appreciated, desired, needed, treasured, secure, safe.

fine… fine… not the exact scientific list

In a trusting relationship, both parties work hard to nourish the other in the language the other understands best. For the guys, that means remembering to say “I love you” instead of assuming she knows you do. Trust me, she does know… but she still needs to hear it. For the gals, it’s remembering to say “thank you” because his ego needs it in order to better appreciate when you say “I love you”

For women, the emotional connection influences the action. For the guys, the action influences the emotional connection.

How different are men and women? Not that much. However, that little difference, when well handled, vanishes and love flourishes. That little difference, when poorly handled, sparks off wars that can easily consume entire tribes, communities, even countries. (Reminds the writer of the movie War of the Roses).

In order for a woman to submit to a man, she needs to feel exactly what she needs to feel to make that choice. Trust. Security. Love. Respect.

In order for a man to shower a woman with love and respect on a sustained basis, he needs the respect and trust to be there the way he needs it to be. Then, his love can pour out over the secure connection they both built.

The fine details of this mystery is for the professionals to hash out. This post is to give room for creative thought and foster conversations. These two very powerful phrases get tossed about way too much without care. Both declarations have significance. They’re to be used with full meaning and awareness of such meaning. When said with sincerity, they can’t get overused. When said in total honesty, they bring forth fruits that nourish the couple through the good and the bad.

The power of these two phrases rest deeply in the transparency of the two hearts that speaks them to one another. That’s the power, through the cable of trust, that moves love at gigabyte speed between to bound lovers.

Dear Dominants. Shower your lady with love. Fill your tribe with love. Sustain the trust. Nourish the bond. As your sub grows from the flowing nourishment, she will keep showing her respect and gratitude, the very essential fuel that keeps you dominant. (ladies, don’t deny yourself love by keeping your gratitude to yourself… say it… go ahead… “Than you”.. See? Nice)

Until next Wolf Wednesday, howl your love and gratitude daily… not just to the moon… but to each other… morning, noon, and night 😉

For those, in the future, who will want to binge on older Wolf Wednesday posts, they will be aggregated in groups on the portfolio section of the blog below. Just click on the image or title to access the table of contents of that group. Thank you for checking out the posts in real time and in binged review.