There is a misconception that is slowly making the rounds of social circles. It appears harmless… yet is very destructive. Some have even speculated that it’s at the foundational level of boyfriend/hubby abuses. (figuratively speaking only)

While these large claims can’t be dismissed as fanciful theories, one can’t say for sure it’s pure truth either. What one needs to know… silence is not weakness.

Just because I care for you…

Just because I care for you does not mean I won’t tell you about yourself

Just because I care about you and for you does not mean you get a pass on caring for yourself or for me.

Often times, in order to lead this relationship forward, I have to put my own needs to the side and make sure yours are well taken care of first. That doesn’t mean my needs are any less important or any less urgent.

After I’ve made sure you’re doing well… doesn’t mean I have to “snap out of it” and be joyously fine as you are… to match your mood. To get upset with me because you discovered I’m not OK and want to share my pain… after taking care of your needs… is only an insult to the love and care I gave to you.

I get it, you want me to be happy when you’re happy, but don’t forget, I put myself on hold to make sure you, as my queen, are well.

Just because I care for you does not mean I don’t need to be cared for. Doesn’t mean I don’t need you to check in on me. Press pass my ego and defenses and let me be real and raw with you.

Many times, you’re sound asleep because I’ve helped you find your release. Doesn’t mean I don’t need my own. Doesn’t make my priorities wrong for valuing you for the queen that you are.

Too many women have blamed men for the end of a relationship they could have kept alive… because they assumed it was the man’s job to care at all cost with no expectations of love in return.

Just because I show you the world and give you all your heart desires does not give you a pass on being attentive to my needs and wants.

Worse. When I care for you and make it a priority to learn everything about you, I often have to pass on teaching you what is important to me. It’s just a time constraint thing.

That’s why… because I care for you…

I need you to see me for who I am, your partner. I need you to feel comfortable reciprocating the care and love you get.

I may operate on this antiquated model of “ladies first” and “chivalry” and “honor” and “discipline” because it works. With it comes the understanding that I need to trust that you will also be equally interested in my well being.

Because I care for you, I expect, no… demand you raise your game to it’s best. You’re getting my best. I want nothing less than your best.

I have no problems earning your trust, love, loyalty, and affection. Once earned, I intend to keep it. I will hold you to a very high standard, one that is worthy of your heart.

When I care, I also make my heart vulnerable to you. I may appear tough and at times a bit rough, however, that’s what the world is supposed to see. Only you have access to my heart. Only you can see my flaws and weakness.

Should you fail to understand the gift of my heart, I will take necessary measures to draw your attention to it. It might come in the form of a stern voice, a raise eyebrow, a firm hand strategically swatted across your rear. When all attempts to draw you in fail, I will simply leave. Because I care too much to be taken for granted.

Wolf Wednesday Returns

Not every male is able to understand self-sacrifice that is required to nurture and care for a female. Few men understand the efforts necessary to build and foster deep trust in a woman. And that many less are qualified to be called a Dom who cares for a sub.

One can only assume the journey of discernment is not an easy one. Especially with matters of the heart.

That said, when a man is a gentleman, it is quite expected that his lady is… a lady.

Because I care so deeply for you, I may shield you from worry, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t worry at all. Instead of sitting at a distance in worry, come to me, talk to me, share with me, let me feel you, so I can let you feel me.

When things are fresh, even when stressed, let us take a little time to better understand what we need from each other. Confusion can be set straight, only if we both take the time to care deeply in full transparency as openly as possible. When I seek to understand you before being understood… and you do the same… we both win.

Because I care for you… I place you first… knowing that you know I demand the very same in return. We fuel each other. We push each other. We protect each other. Because we care for each other.

side note when I say I care for you… forgive the masculine shell that may cloud the complete message…. I mean when I love you. So, the phrase… “just because I care for you…” really reads “just because I love you…”

Until the Wolf Pack meets again, treasure and cherish the love built on trust that bonds and binds you together

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