So, why have an ego at all?

Ego has helped many men conquer the unknowns of the world. The man who can climb the highest mountain is granted higher status than the man who can’t. The man who can outfight another is given higher status than the man who lost.

The man who can get more dates is given more status than the man who stands as a wall flower. The man who gains promotions at work has more status than the one who doesn’t. The list of examples goes on and on.

For comparison, the woman likes to feel secure. The man likes to feel respected. The ability to amaze and awe is one of the simplest ways to gain the feeling of increased status.

For better or worse, society has set out certain criteria of status. These are heavily guarded symbols of power. The mail-room guy hopes to elevate to the boardroom. The rookie wants to be the MVP. The man wants to know his dick gave his lady the highest achievable orgasm known to women. The list goes on and on.

Egos drive men. Men use egos to push beyond their own limits. They discover they’re able do more for longer periods of time than they’ve ever imagined, thanks to the ego. It’s that turbo boost that all guys wish to have.

The problem is not the ego. It’s the maturity of the man wielding that ego. In the workplace, just look at the guys with fragile egos who are very reactive. Just cross them and see how petty and vindictive they get. However, the “natural” leaders who rise to the top over time are the ones who have learned to hold their peace and control their tempers. They gain trust, hold trust, nurture trust, and get the job done without much fuss.

Having control of your ego doesn’t make you weak. It makes you incredibly strong.

A strong man knows how to unleash the ego to reach goals. He knows how to hold his ego in check. A well checked ego is insurance… people don’t know what buttons to press to upset and manipulate you. This makes you ultra powerful and highly regarded.

Sadly, most men don’t understand this, due to the cultural cues that aren’t well taught but highly publicized. Those who take the time to learn the venues and control their impulses have huge advantages.

Just look at the cool suave portrayal of the dominant man. He’s not one who just reacts. He sits, watches, says little, and just gets results. That’s where the phrase “righteous indignation” comes into play. He knows how to channel his feelings in a controlled fashion to unleash maximal impact only when and where it’s needed. Surgical precision.

A sub counts on her Dom to have control over himself before he attempts to control anything about her. To act impulsively is to subject your sub to countless needless harm. Because the harm was done through the channels of trust, the damages are far more painful and far deeper to her heart and soul.

A Dom avoids acting impulsively and hurting his charge. He self-sacrifices to ensure she’s fine. And yes, this includes his appearance of impulsively taking her and ripping her clothing to passionately make love to her… that’s a controlled expression of love, the highest form of love… in the opinion of some.

How do I rid my man of his ego?

Not sure you’d like to have an ego-less man. Subs, from what research is available, don’t want a listless ambition-less man. Even if that ambition is simply holding down a job and keeping a roof over his head, she needs to know he’s got some level of drive. Of course, some subs want more drive than others and that’s perfectly fine. There is a Dom for nearly every possible need a sub could want. Thanks to there being 7 billion people on the planet.

Instead of working to purge a man of his ego, let’s work with him to find a safe place to discover his ego, his maturity, and his need to gain mastery over his emotions. This point is far more complex than this single post. It will be touched in various iteration over the course of the life of this blog.

All men need a safe place where they can work on gaining mastery of their egos and making it work for him instead of it working him.

We owe it to ourselves, the women who trust us, and the people who are going to feel the impact of our decisions. Most importantly, we must do it as a matter of principle that makes us men.

Are there other aspects to a male’s ego you’ve not touched?

Absolutely. There is so much more to say. However, in the shallows of the depths that is the man’s ego, each man has his own version of an ego. Each man has his own relationship with his ego. Each relationship he has with another human impacts the nature of his ego.

It’s not possible to make one blog post that covers all the aspects of a man’s ego. There is no way to make one blog that covers the entirety of a man’s ego, let alone the ego of men.

The goal here is to bring some light and conversational starter that will help men and women better understand each other. That way, the bond between a Dom and his sub will prosper and benefit both for as long as the two agree to be in such a bond.

Wolf Wednesday

Today we took a small step into the shallows of the depth called the male ego. There are lots of shade and shadows that masks the true identity of a man’s ego. We know the ego by what it does in various situations.

Thankfully, a man can gain mastery. Most easiest of starting points is to reflect on the day and how it went. What were your feelings to such a day, your reactions to such a day, and were they what you would’ve liked them to be?

Once this conversation starts, the process just has to build from there as the man improves his relationship with himself. He has to first get to know himself before he can do anything to change himself.

As a man gets to know himself better he then has more to share with his significant other, which in this instance is his sub. With all that information at her disposal, she’s better able to help that man grow and feel nourished.

Maybe we should one day speak about the way a woman can nourish her Dom in greater details than what was already done on this blog before.

For now, wolves, we’ve got to continue leveling up and learning about ourselves as well as our subs. We’ve got to engage beast mode and make the changes that are necessary to keep our subs safe and make the world better. You got this! You’re not alone. You’re part of a pack.

Let’s make this year the most fantastic year ever… and let this be the foundation for the future to come.

Beast mode activated!

For your reading pleasure, a sampled list of other Wolf Pack posts will be added below. Just click on the title or image to get to the post of interest. at the tail end of the page is a directory to get to the other sessions of the Wolf Pack

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Making a List - What do women want? What do men want? Do guys really know what they want? Do they really know what women want? Find out...because the answer is not limited to sex.
Bringing Back the Wolf Pack - To kick off the new year, it's time to bring back the Wolf Pack at full song Diving into a lot of topics this year.... is the plan Wishing you all a magnificient new year!!! Wolves... engage beast mode!
Four Skills Every Dom Must Master - A discussion: The fundamental skills every Dom needs to master. Thankfully, these are skills any man can learn
Bonus: Traits Every Dom should master - The good people of the internet filled in their list of traits every Dom needs With these, a sub will feel comfortable gifting her submission. Bonus content
With the goal of becoming a Dom… - The choices we make impact many. Leveling up is the only way to ensure we care for ourselves and those who depend on us Some say..being a Dom is a choice. Others say it’s a birthright. Whatever your view, we each can be better Let’s shape the future by being better. Our subs will thank us for it
Addressing the fragile male ego for Wolf Wednesday Q&A - Why do men have egos? Why are these egos fragile? Should men get rid of their egos? Wolf Wednesday looks into the shallows of the depths of an ego... and gives some answers. Dive right on in.
How do I get my lady to submit: Wolf Wednesday Q&A - Some assume it's a right to have their lady submit. Others demand, even order it. But is this really how it works? Forcing a lady to submit to you? Let's look at how to get this right... every time. Wolf Pack, engage beast mode!
Wolf Wednesday – Introducing the Revelations - Introducing the latest edition of Wolf Wednesday to the Wolf Pack. The 4th chapter: Revelations Taking a closer look at some of the understandings in a wolf pack Inspiration to be the best alpha in the pack
The First Revelations Chapter 1 Verse 1 - A man can boast of his skills all he wants, but without a partner to play, where's the proof? In trust based relationships, the person holding all the power is the one who says "yes" or "no" to the desires one wants. She defines what is allowed and he carries out these wishes. The first revelation, her definitions creates his reality

To conclude this post, below will be a list of the various Wolf Pack projects… sorted by years… for those who may like to binge read any of the posts they might have missed in the past.

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