I want my woman to submit to me… what do I do?

You’ve got to earn her trust. That simple, that easy, that hard. Earn her trust and keep it.

Could it be another way? Not really, no.

Your lady has to feel safe, secure, loved, and trusted in order for her trust to grow to the point of wanting to submit any part of her to you.

You’ve got to be a man of your word. You’ve got to be honest. You’ve got to be kind. You’ve got to be genuine and authentic.

These words get batted around too much to have their real meaning make the impact they should… but it’s really true.

Nothing robs a woman’s sense of security with a man than knowing that he doesn’t do what he says he’s going to do.

If you said you’ll pick her up from work, actually show up and pick her up. If you’re unable to do so, say so. Give her enough time to make alternative arrangements.

Man up! That’s what the phrase really mean. Be a man of your word. Let your actions speak loudly and your words accordingly.

It’s not about being rough and tough. It’s not about yelling or restricting. It’s about being trustworthy and filled with integrity.

It’s about being a gentleman and chivalrous without a hidden agenda.

All these mentioned skills can be learned and perfected.

Women aren’t asking too much when you really think about it. Guys want the same thing among themselves.

In the brotherhood, respect is treasured and heavily punished when broken.

It’s no different for women

The respect we want is the respect they need. For us, respect looks slightly differently… it’s based in part on social rank. For women, it’s based on how they feel when you do what you say you’ll do… the sense of security that comes from respecting her feelings.

When you’re true to yourself, she will then have an easy time deciding if you’re the guy she wants to submit to. When she makes that determination, the rest follows pretty easily.

But, if you keep shifting about and changing unpredictably and letting her down, she will pull back and take her submission with her.

No sub likes to be dropped emotionally because you just couldn’t be bothered to hold her close.

If your lady refuses to submit to you, either your definition of submission is off or you’re doing something that keeps her from wanting to submit to you.

This is not ignoring the fact some women just aren’t built to submit to any man… and others have made the choice not to submit… ever. And that’s to be respected as well.

The best thing you can do for your lady is be the man you are, but to your fullest. Don’t demand. Don’t push. Don’t insist. Don’t pull. Don’t pry. Don’t force. Don’t manipulate. Don’t passive aggressively nudge.

Just be you.

She wants just you. Not the image your buddies think you should be or the imaginary you that you would hope to evolve to. Just be you. All of you. Only you.

And be open to growing and accepting feedback from her and yourself. Be willing to grow into a better you. Not the imaginary you. But the you you’ve been called to be. If you don’t know him, go find out fast.

Be you.

Let her fall for you with her soul. Let her soul connect to you and find out you’re exactly what she’s been yearning for all her life. Then, she’ll entertain submitting to you. And with a little luck, that will translate into subtle submission. The one you’ve been really wanting all along. The special connection that you’re only allowed to see.

Wolf Wednesday

A lady’s submission is never about what you’re getting. It’s never about what you’re going to get her to do. It’s not about you at all.

A lady’s submission is about her trusting you to take care of her as she should be cared for.

That is it.

Your job is to take care of her to the absolute best of all of your abilities.

This includes the abilities you’ve yet to cultivate, the abilities you’ve yet to learn. In other words, you’ve got to level up and become the most worthy person of her submission.

The unintended consequences of her submission is all the other things you’ve wanted all along. Sure, you’re not going to get every single bit of it. That’s just human nature. She can’t read your mind and she can’t fulfill every fantasy you have the way you have them. After all, they’re fantasy, not reality.

However, a sub loves making her Dom proud of her. This may mean playing out your fantasies and keeping the house clean… if she wants to. What a sub will focus on is connecting with your soul and delivering to your soul what her soul feels will make yours the most proud of her.

In the process, a lot of things will happen that you’d like to have happen. For those things you don’t get, well, there are far worse things in life than not getting your way in every single thing you’d ever wished to get.

Ask any content Dom and you’ll see that there isn’t a list of things they get that makes them content. It’s the bond, the shared spiritual experience, the soul-mate bond that they most cherish.

Sure, you’d love to use a paddle and she rather you use your hand. In the end, you both get the joy of the release that happens when her cheeks are made red. It’s not about the implement, it’s about the implementation

As the pack continues it’s expansion into the year, let’s work to be worthy of our sub’s submission and we’ll never have to worry about getting her submission. She will gift it to us when she feels the connection is worthy of it.

As a little teaser… some folks have learned that the best way to secure a woman’s submission is to be submitted yourself to something outside/greater than you.

It could be the relationship, it could be a deity, it could be a mission or purpose. Whatever that may be for you, as long as you’re working towards the excellence and mastery of whatever you’re submitted to, it will teach you a lot about carrying for things greater than you… which greatly improves the likelihood your lady will want to submit to you.

As we bring this post to a conclusion, understand that submission looks different from couple to couple. Some only submit in the bedroom for play, others it’s a 24/7 deal, and the rest are somewhere in-between.

Don’t let any dogma or belief system fool you into thinking that women don’t have a choice in the matter. The very fact that she’s by your side (unless you stole her, at which point, this blog is not for you) is a sign that she’s willing. Just be the be the man she’s come to know, love, and trust, and the rest will sort itself out.

Oh, I’d be remiss if I didn’t say this… the two in the relationship have to work as a team to reach that point where submission comes naturally. Work it out together. Give yourself that chance to experience heaven-on-earth levels of bliss that comes from well cultivated trust.

Wolves, let’s engage beast mode and stay trustworthy of the greatest gift any human can ever give… their submission of will and soul.

Remain honorable and respectful at all times while in beast mode… as well as out of beast mode.

For your reading pleasure, a sampled list of other Wolf Pack posts will be added below. Just click on the title or image to get to the post of interest. at the tail end of the page is a directory to get to the other sessions of the Wolf Pack

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Making a List - What do women want? What do men want? Do guys really know what they want? Do they really know what women want? Find out...because the answer is not limited to sex.
Bringing Back the Wolf Pack - To kick off the new year, it's time to bring back the Wolf Pack at full song Diving into a lot of topics this year.... is the plan Wishing you all a magnificient new year!!! Wolves... engage beast mode!
Four Skills Every Dom Must Master - A discussion: The fundamental skills every Dom needs to master. Thankfully, these are skills any man can learn
Bonus: Traits Every Dom should master - The good people of the internet filled in their list of traits every Dom needs With these, a sub will feel comfortable gifting her submission. Bonus content
With the goal of becoming a Dom… - The choices we make impact many. Leveling up is the only way to ensure we care for ourselves and those who depend on us Some say..being a Dom is a choice. Others say it’s a birthright. Whatever your view, we each can be better Let’s shape the future by being better. Our subs will thank us for it
Addressing the fragile male ego for Wolf Wednesday Q&A - Why do men have egos? Why are these egos fragile? Should men get rid of their egos? Wolf Wednesday looks into the shallows of the depths of an ego... and gives some answers. Dive right on in.
How do I get my lady to submit: Wolf Wednesday Q&A - Some assume it's a right to have their lady submit. Others demand, even order it. But is this really how it works? Forcing a lady to submit to you? Let's look at how to get this right... every time. Wolf Pack, engage beast mode!
Wolf Wednesday – Introducing the Revelations - Introducing the latest edition of Wolf Wednesday to the Wolf Pack. The 4th chapter: Revelations Taking a closer look at some of the understandings in a wolf pack Inspiration to be the best alpha in the pack
The First Revelations Chapter 1 Verse 1 - A man can boast of his skills all he wants, but without a partner to play, where's the proof? In trust based relationships, the person holding all the power is the one who says "yes" or "no" to the desires one wants. She defines what is allowed and he carries out these wishes. The first revelation, her definitions creates his reality

To conclude this post, below will be a list of the various Wolf Pack projects… sorted by years… for those who may like to binge read any of the posts they might have missed in the past.

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