Everyone has heard about the levels of work a relationship needs. Eyes often glaze over whenever emphasis is placed on maintaining a relationship.

Sadly, in some corners of humanity, some guys believe the work should be done by women… to keep them (guys) happy.

Uh… no!

This month, during the Women’s Heritage Month, this site is taking a little moment to underscore the importance of placing smart level work in keeping a woman’s needs in focus.

A dominant male, who values his own happiness, will take great care of his submissive. He knows that her well-being impacts his wellness. Time, resources, and commitment are needed to nurture a submissive.

Nurturing your lady so she can blossom

Meeting the needs of your lady means peace of mind for the both of you in the short and long term of your relationship. Taking the time to know her needs and getting skilled at meeting then affords you the luxury of getting ahead of her needs in a satisfactory way.

The upside of being well versed in meeting her needs is the freedom it affords her to focus on your needs. This ranges from a listening ear to a well placed corrective hand.

Too many want to jump to the corrective tones and restrictive bonds without understanding the loving embraces and supportive shoulders required for such trust to exist.

You can’t rush romance and you certainly can’t force trust to grow. It must be nourished. Caressed. Encouraged. Lead through patience and reassurance. Then, molding and contouring can be considered.

How Does Nurturing Works

To the great chagrin of many men, there are no hacks or shortcuts. One has to be adept at listening. One has to be internally silent in order to fully appreciate the non-verbals and innuendos a lady slips by you.

This means moving things around your calendar to be available for social banter as well as attentive love giving.

One has to be protective of her sanity as well as her sense of security.

Your presence has to be assurance. She’s has to know that you’re a stable rational emotional anchor in her life. Can’t be freaking out when she’s stressed out. Can’t be responding counter-productively to every single whimper she utters. She needs maturity and tenderness.

Of course, not all women want the same thing. The skilled Dom not only appreciates this, but tailors his support and nourishment specifically to the needs of his sub.

Meet her on her level and be by her side as you guide her growth on her time. Of course, this means letting her try new things on her own as well as introducing her to novel things when she’s ready.

Women, believe it or not, are capable of way more than they’re given credit for. Just think, if all women were given the same opportunities as men, they would do wonders for this world.

You can’t be so intimidated and afraid of your lady that you keep her from growing as a person. It is her responsibility to be her best just like it’s your responsibility to facilitate her being her best.

There will be times you want to watch ESPN and you’ll have to turn off the game to listen empathetically to her rough day at work. Listen without giving unsolicited feedback or suggestions or solutions. By listening, empathetically, you’re allowing her to grow more attached to you and feel safe in your arms.

Don’t worry, women do keep tabs of this and do show their appreciation. No need to show thirst or keep score. She’s got you covered. She wants you to be just as happy as you’d like to be.

It’s believing in her when no one else does or the cards are not in her favor. It’s believing in her when she does believe in herself. It’s believing in her when she doesn’t believe in herself. More importantly, letting her feel your belief and faith in her abilities.

Words only mean but so much. Actions and feelings count for way more. She knows when you’re just filling her ears with lies. Tell her the truth with love. Let her show you how capable she is of handling the truth. This allows her room to grow, when the truth is shared lovingly.