What Roles Do You Play

The trust between two people is the most essential building block for any relationship. Some couples are happy playing the BDSM roles inside their bedrooms only. Others make it a lifestyle full time arrangement. Others blend play and life as they see fit.

Nothing says you’re bound to only play one role your whole life. In one relationship, you’re the dominant, in another, you’re the submissive. In some relationships, you switch between both.

For some, they’re one type and can’t be in a relationship in which they’re not in the role that suits them the most.

Some people are dominant, and that’s just that. Same for submissive.

It’s OK.

There’s no right or wrong way to be. That’s why it’s so important that the two parties talk and establish their relationship. They have to monitor it and nurture it over time. It’s imperative they adapt with time.

The smoothness of your relationship is dependent on how well you know yourself. This is influenced by your life experiences, self-respect, personal style, and knowing which styles from others work with yours.

Things go really wrong when respect is not given. Respect is critical for the development of trust. Trust has to be upheld.

We aren’t touching what could go wrong in this post, but a lot of harm happens when people don’t respect boundaries and honor the roles they agree to play.

So, what role do you play? How important is your role to you and your relationship?

Do please let me know in the comments. I look forward to learning from you as well.

This post was a bonus post in the series called “The First Revelations”. The entire series will live in the (table of contents) for you to browse and enjoy anytime after the series creation. Below will be a list of the revelations as they become available.

1. Wolf Wednesday – Introducing the Revelations - Introducing the latest edition of Wolf Wednesday to the Wolf Pack. The 4th chapter: Revelations Taking a closer look at some of the understandings in a wolf pack Inspiration to be the best alpha in the pack
2. The First Revelations Chapter 1 Verse 1 - A man can boast of his skills all he wants, but without a partner to play, where's the proof? In trust based relationships, the person holding all the power is the one who says "yes" or "no" to the desires one wants. She defines what is allowed and he carries out these wishes. The first revelation, her definitions creates his reality