Tis the season for gift giving and laughter with friends and family. Lots of tinsel and tree decors. The time when people celebrate for many happy joyful reasons.

During all this season of jolly feelings, taking a moment on this Wolf Wednesday to point out a few minor obvious bits of information.

The Language of Love

p.s. the tower of babble was a very fitting image… don’t you think? Beats men from mars and women from venus image lol

It’s easy to talk about what guys want or what gals want in love. It’s easy to wade into the shallow end of spanking and handcuffs. However, in this whole deep trust relationship part of the pool of love, understanding the language of love is a two way street.

What does that mean?

A wise friend helped me understand that while a guy love taking care of his gal, he cannot discount how much she loves taking care of him. Yes, that sounds totally logical. However, the details is where it can get complicated.

Example.

Most guys love providing for their women. Ok, most gentlemen. It’s a thing of pride knowing they can do for their lady. That’s why some guys get a bit bent out of shape when they see their women provide for themselves without asking for help. However, that same guy won’t think twice his lady’s desire to take care of him. Not that he doesn’t care, just doesn’t think about it on a regular basis.

That same guy who was all revved about having hand built the new walk in closet for his lady dreamed of having will at times nonchalantly skip over the dinner his lady prepared for him… all because he wants to rush on to play with his new leather restraints she got him.

While that may sound harmless, in the world of spoken love, he just dissed her language of love to go play with his. How? Well, some women relay their love through their cooking, one of the many tools they use to convey their love for their man.

That’s why certain dishes only taste great when a certain person cooks them. They infuse their love into their craft. It does not have to be cooking. It could be with how she bought his suit or fixed his tie. Even how she provides financial support for the home she’s building. Never take for granted what she pours her soul into to make you happy.

A lot of things get lost in translation because they’re not our native love language. But if it is the tongue your partner uses, it’s not just good to learn to speak it, it’s also important to learn to listen to it.

The guy who is good at listening and responding to his lady’s language of love is really a king in his castle.