Same can be said for Heather. While she’s trying to lecture her man into being a domesticated hubby, maybe, instead of worrying about looking like the barbie she doesn’t like to be, she can stop editing herself in the bedroom.

The early days of their honeymoon, she used to steam up the bedroom with toys and all kinds of naughty words spilled out between shouts of joy. Then, she figured she had to act all mature and responsible. She had to grow up and stop being all girly in the house.

Her acting like her love life was over turned things cold in the house. Hubby turned to the only method he knew… buy his wife things… to motivate her to be the sexy woman he knew. Little did he know that was insulting her intelligence.

Instead of comparing his wife to other wives, maybe, just maybe, taking time to get away to a cabin and allowing his wife to share her ideas might help her feel understood. Once the talking was addressed, then, pull out one of the toys she loves… and reintroduce her to the girl inside who was very adventurous.

Heather, once free to be herself, could then put a bit more effort in whipping up her own batch of whipped cream to use to spice things up in the bedroom, something she used to like.

Don’t be a Heather and talk a man to tears about what he’s not doing right. Sometimes, its ok to let actions do the talking. It’s ok to add a little sin to the pot and let hubby figure out what to do with that bit of naughty list.

Don’t be like Heather and hunker down on the old remedies that don’t work. Nagging may not annoy you, but it sure does your man. Not going to say throwing on a pair of sexy attire is the solution to the problem, but if hubby is asking, maybe… just maybe… it’s worth a try. You  never know, his ears might just perk up when his eyes feast on what they love to see.

Which is you… in case that paragraph didn’t make that very clear.

We complicate things by trying too hard. Sometimes, the simplicity of doing… goes much further than… trying.

In order to be, do

To be great, you have to do the work of being great. To be awesome, you have to do the steps required to be awesome.

To many hot sizzling romances have been destroyed because people have stopped being romantic and have switched over to trying to be romantic.

Sure, I tried to get her to go out with be but she kept on being busy…. yeah.. that may be the case… but did you get on her calendar with a solid date invite… and actually went to the date?

When one says they try… they leave themselves the option of failing. Try is mainly an intellectual thought process. I thought of going, I got up to go to the bathroom… I saw her in her sweats… figured she wasn’t in the mood… so I went back to watching t.v. I tried.

Yet, for all that trying, you’re watching television instead of having rough passionate, soul snatching, spirit elevating, mind clearing, heart stopping, hip grinding sex.

In other words. Sometimes, quit trying to have a great love life, and be about that great love life. Period.

This does not discount those who should not be together or those who are past the point of no return. This is mainly about all these relationships being waste simply because you stopped being romantic and started demanding your partner do all the work under the pretext that you’re trying.

What should we do this holiday then?

Grab your partner’s rear end like you mean it. Look her in the eyes and thank her for staying by your side. Kiss her like your life depended on it.

At first, she will naturally push back. You’ve not been on top of your game for some period of time. She forgot what it was like to have herself swept off her feet. Be understanding of that, then sweep her off her feet anyway.  She’ll thank you for it later.

Be sure to open up doors for her as she goes to the various festivities. Not because you’re trying to show the world you’re her knight. No. because you have to be in a position to swat that rear end to let her know you find her hot.

Depending on the setting and her personality, find the right time to hug her… from behind.. and make sure your hands get a good solid hold of her breast… for supportive measures of course. Let her feel your passion for her. While you have her boobs secured, don’t hesitate to goose her. Let her know she can still rev your engine. After all these days of neglect, she’s probably unsure that you’ve go an engine.

Before letting her go, as she most likely wants to turn around and give you a stern eye, whisper in her ear how much you regret not showing her how much she means to you. Be sincere too, women know when you’re not. Don’t fake this. Let her know how much she ignites the passion in your loins and heats up your head with desire. She knows which head you’re talking about too.

Then, let her enjoy the festivities. Gentle and not so gentle reminders throughout is good. Just don’t be a jerk about it. Be smooth. Be you. The guy who swept her off her feet in the first place.

Then, when you get home, do not go straight to the sack. Do not be that juvenile idiot. Sit her down, caress her, speak to her, speak with her. Let her rest her head on your shoulder as she recounts how she felt about your unexpected ways.

For good measure, take off her shoes too. She’s been dancing all night in them. Be a good guy and give her a break. Massage them if you know what’s good for you. Then, let her rest. That is unless she’s inviting you to be naughty. Then, be naughty.

If not, play the long game. Set up a nice romantic date in between running around with friends and family. Give her a moment of your undivided attention. A moment to see, feel, hear, and taste how special she is to you. A time to reconnect with your charm.

Let her know what she was missing. Let her know that her patience is being rewarded and that you’ve come to your senses and won’t let her feel abandoned like that again.

Mean it.

Do it.

Take hold of your romance. Rescue it. Put it back on the nice list. Nurture it back to health. That way, she’s got the luxury of showing you just how naughty she can be knowing the romance is extra nice again.

This post has gotten rather long… no time to put the woman’s perspective on here this time around. But fellas, don’t you worry. You take care of lady like this… very official like… and she will take care of you. That’s the beauty of having selected an awesome lady…. once she knows you need her… she’s got a funny way of showing up. (that does also mean actually letting her know what it is you’re expecting… don’t just expect her to read your mind)

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Now… where did this post idea come from? Social media and another story from a post I did for another blog. Excerpts of the inspiration lives in the images below. Feel free to read the musings that came with the images. All words created by yours truly.

Delighted to share these thoughts on the final page of this blog post.