We’re all familiar with promises that need to be held and kept sacred. We are all too aware of the impact of violating such important social contracts.

When playing at a deeper and more intense level of commitment, it is important to set expectations clear and lay a strong foundation of trust. Without a solid base, the rest of the tantalizing fun will be for naught… as we leave ourself at risk of being hurt on a deeper level than most.

When dealing with trust based relationships, dear beloved, matters of the heart have far greater and more significant ramifications. At the depth of it is our very core. No one should be exposed to such betrayals at the deepest levels of humanity.

these prose slip in and out of poetry… as well as point of view… as the musings ebbs and flows through imagery… and playfully wraps words in play… play on words

Dearly Beloved

You and I are gathered here with the hopes of starting something very special. Not that what we already have is not special in it’s own right.

No, what we’re doing is making it very official to each other, from this day forward, we are trusting each other to the fullest.

The journey, dear beloved, has no finish line, if we do it this correctly. It’s a constant path of discovery.

Sure, it’s fun to make the skin sizzle with anticipation and reach the exhilaration of orgasmic bliss.

That will all continue in due time, but you need to know a few things, my dear beloved. We are gathered here to make something monumental in our lives, a union unlike any other, where our love can truly thrive.

Much like vows

Dearly beloved, we are gathered here… setting the foundation of what is to be valued as the most sacred of sacred.

We aren’t talking about a legally binding union. No, it is far greater than that. It is a spiritual union wrapped in emotional vulnerability, protected by intellectual vigilance, manifested in naughty physical entanglement.

The mind body and soul, dearly beloved, is splayed open on the alter of trust so that it can bear fruits of celestial proportions.

I promise to protect your heart and mind with all the might I have to bring. I promise to grow my chivalry daily to keep up with the ever changing times. I promise to uphold your honor and protect you from everyone including me… if need be. Yet, I promise to be most vulnerable and transparent only to you, since you’re my glory.

Dearly beloved, the truest form of alpha dominance can only be given in the deepest humility of service to the woman a man loves. A man, in this life, is made great by his willingness to lay down his heart at the feet of his lady. He pledges to be her hero, savior, lifeline, and soul priority.

Do not get it twisted, dearly beloved, that this man is made weak by his sacrifices for his lady. She is his power, his anointing, his life blood, his inspiration, his reason for being strong.

A woman is not weak when she submits to her man, instead is at her strongest because she’s being true to herself while allowing a man to take on the responsibilities of freeing her to be herself. As crazy as this may sound to some, when a woman is free to multiply love, she’s the most powerful creator being on the planet.

This is why, dearly beloved, no man should ever ask a lady to submit to him unless he’s ready to lay down his life for her well being. (in the modern era, this can often be read more figuratively than literally… but the principle is eternal)

The Key: Trust

Dearly beloved, when venturing into this lifestyle, it is not for the faint of heart. It is not for the weak. It is not for the unsure. It is not for those who can’t shoulder responsibilities.

As a man, you are asking a woman to trust you to do what is right by her even when it is not right by you. That means caring for her needs when the super bowl is in session and she needs you more than you need her. It is quietly listening when all you want to do is give unsolicited advice.

As a man, it is surrendering all juvenile impulses and using ultimate restraint so that your lady can blossom into her fullest bloom. The loving and caring of your lady is not just important, it is crucial for the wellness of your relationship as well as your sanity.

One famous preacher once said…

Men add and subtract… women multiply and divide. Be very careful about the love, care, and nurturing you offer to her, as she will amplify it back to you or divide you out of her life.

The lady is trusting you to be her rock, not because she can’t do it herself, as she’s probably more qualified than you to be her own rock. She’s trusting you because that’s her way of showing you how much she cares. She’s forgoing her own power to see if you’ll give it back to her and elevate her to her rightful height.

While some young ladies have yet to learn how to identify who to trust, rest assured, they all figure it out faster than you’d like. A wise man safeguards the trust given to him as if his life depends on it. Often times, it does.